Just thought I'd share this tidbit from Canfield's The Success Principles, which I'm eagerly listening to on audio CD in my car. It's paraphrased, but I loved it!
In your 20s, you spend a lot of time worrying what people think of you. In your 40s, you don't care what people think of you. In youre 60s, you figure out that they weren't thinking about you at all. They were too busy worrying about what other people thought of them.
Isn't that a great bit of wisdom? Here's to not caring what others think of you!
This is lifted directly from a friend's blog, with her permission. Isn't this so true?
Perspective is so much more important than we give it credit for.
1. having tacos for dinner tonight
- we can say we are having "Mexican Night" tonight; make taco, burritos, etc. and play Mexican music during dinner and possibly discuss geography or culture
- we can simply go through the frig and pull out stuff to make tacos and burritos and inform everyone that dinner is served
.....either way, we ate the same thing and took about the same amount of time making it. It just seemed more exciting one way than the other. When asked what we did for dinner last night, we could either say "We had Mexican Night!" and explain, or we could say, "We just stayed home and made tacos". The truth is that they are the exact same thing; the difference was our attitude.
2. watching movies at home tonight
- we can say we are having "scary movie night"; rent movies, pop popcorn, and throw frozen pizzas in the oven
- we can simply decide we really aren't in the mood to cook or do anything so we can wander down stairs, pick out something to watch on cable and throw frozen pizzas in the oven.
...... eihter way, we at frozen pizzas and sat in front of the tv. And when asked what we did last night, we could say "We had scary movie night with the kids. We rented some movies and had pizza, pop and popcorn" or we could say "Nothing really. Just watched tv and threw some frozen pizzas in." Again, they are the exact same thing, the difference was our attitude.
Hello again from D.C.! Back in our nation's capitol this week after acting as referee at the Master Lock booth, with renewed energy and more workshops on my calendar. And with that comes today's lesson in prejudging. I walked into this morning's seminar 15 minutes early and ready to go. I poked my head into the office of the managing broker, who promptly dismissed me as not having time to meet with me before my training session.
Hmm. See, it's important to meet with the manager before each workshop so that (a) he/she knows what to expect and (b) he/she can provide incentives or support for the team to go to the big event. So after a few minutes, she asked me what I needed, and I spoke quickly to her in the hall. Or I tried to. I think I got about half a sentence out before she cut me off with admonitions that it was my show and she didn't care about the investment.
Hmm. Did this slow me down? Not a bit. It's better if the manager knows what's going on and so can enourage her people to participate in outside training, but not necessary. I started the meeting and made sure to incorporate references to the strong maternal authority figure that she is. And bingo! She interspersed her own advice into the workshop, making it much more personal. In the end, everyone had a great time and learned a lot, and many were motivated to continue their outside training.
It would have been VERY easy to mentally give up on the meeting when I walked in, to read that manager as "uncooperative" and give a lousy effort. But I'm so very glad that I didn't!
And you know what? She asked me to come back and give the workshop to her whole staff of 40 agents next month!